But I realize others prefer plants. My grandmother is my ideal of both a woman and a mother, but she was married to an alcoholic so I understand if she is not the ideal for others. By The average of the survey said their bishopric probably spends about $1 per sister for Mothers Day gifts. The best MD talk I ever heard was given by my neighbor. Products; .
Latter-day Saints in a contemporary congregation partake of the sacrament. Gospel Q&A: How Can I Find and Foster Celestial Love? Very useful counsel, Mark. Just asking. Geesh! I pray the Spirit will be with me today as I give this talk. Maybe. . Then I served in a Branch with 90% women who had absent husbands and who also grew up with absent fathers. Thats the last thing a mother needs, responsibility for yet another living thing. lol! Or better yet, teach their classes and let them attend RS for a day? The best Mothers Day talk Ive ever heard was an illustration of this principle. For myself and kindred too, Honest! Isnt it reasonable to think that Abe is trying a little too hard, and might be overcompensating for something? I have been called by God to be there and that is where I should be. Alece, I also love CS Lewis, and agree that we should look to higher ground in our mortal journey. 3rd hour had all of the PRI & YW leaders including the YW themselves in RS with homemade lemon cakes from the teacher. Its a complete set-up for failure. The best MD talk was from a woman who gave a list of all the things she wished she had known when she was 18. I can only pray no one will take offense, as I certainly never mean any offense.
What to Expect at Latter-day Saint Church Services I just read that talk again; and I see nothing wrong with it. President Hinckley directly addresses mothers in this talk, commending them for the wonderful thing they have done by becoming mothers, but offering insights on their greatest challenge: to be able to answer the question How well have my children done? with happiness. We got the story about women blessing their cows a couple of years ago. Serious question for everyone, just out of true curiosity: How many of these horror stories happened in the last five years? He did not have any high-profile ward or stake calling at the time, not that it matters. Mothers Day for me is when my children and Grandchildren call me. This year in our ward we are having a missionary farewell for Mothers Daynot the old kind where the new missionary and all his/her family speak, but the new kind where the new missionary will be given a topic. At a certain point, their best has to be enough.
Because children can be wayward we should not celebrate parenthood. Respect her. No fuss, no muss. I personally am skeptical of ever looking to people for ideals. Is this really the Mothers Day message I need? Now we have a tradition that during the last ten minutes of priesthood meeting, they gather all the classes from deacons to high priests together in the multi-purpose room and present them with Fat Boy ice cream sandwiches. Love for mothers is good, but sometimes there is a fine, fine line between love and dysfunction. We've gathered five inspiring gifts for Latter-day Saint women to help them feel cherished and celebrated. The reminder was given to visit those sisters unable to attend on Mother's Day. We were each handed full size chocolate bars that had been wrapped at the end of Sac Mtng. So I would personally prefer if they didnt do those honor-mothers meetings. To be fair, diabetics can eat chocolate. Well, count me among the lucky ones who are speaking this coming Sunday. I struggled with infertility for nearly a decade. My Mother will one day reach the godstage with my Father and will have there own planet. I like the idea of a simple gift for those in attendance. Are you looking for the best LDS talks on motherhood? Diabetic others, for example. I cant quite get them right and they would certainly be expunged by the moderators anyway. Not until the 1600s did people start associating the holiday with their own actual mothers (Mothering Day in the UK). I was initially surprised he went that way, but I have to say although Ive occasionally heard people say they wish something were did, I heard many complaints every previous year that something was done about what that something was. Not that I am anything special, but I gave a Mother's Day talk when I was a bishop that was so well-received even my own mother loved it. Dont twist the knife; let them come to you if they want it. Just after she became a beehive, her mother had an affair. End of rant. My worst MD talk came in the Fast and Testimony meeting the week before in which my father, who was visiting since he no longer lived in our ward, decided to give some incredibly intimate details about his divorce and why he blamed it on several of his children, but not others. Wards/branches can use this app to create and print traditional . I did live in one ward where the mothers always got plants but the fathers always got cookies. A day focused on mothers is hard enough for many women, and much more so when thats all they hear about at church. Sisters would come up to me and express that MD was hard for them also for various reasonsone was abused by her mother while another friend had lost a mother she loved as a teenager so cried all day long. So He can be ideal AND real.
The Mother's Day Talk PSA - By Common Consent, a Mormon Blog Yea like all of you My Mother sucked too. I found out the hard way after a long list of them declined to give the talk. Lewis moments ago which speaks directly to those thoughts: The perfect sacrament meeting talk? Some of the stories were simple acts of kindness and some were extraordinary examples of love and sacrifice. I recommend it highly: This! (http://dandelionmama.wordpress.com/2012/05/08/this-this-is-what-i-believe/). Sometimes its good, sometimes its bad. 22 We can all sound harsh at times, but this seems to be a community of sorts and following through on the different dicussions helps put context to opinions expressed. Maybe we should do it eucharistic-like so I dont have to feel guilty? And chocolate. Reading over those messages, it is hard to come up with any form of consensus other than, everyone has a different opinion. We know very little about HM and HF really. A cookie in a baggie? But her mother held a yardstick, and if her daughter played the wrong key, her mother smacked her across the back ofher hands, thus providing sufficient negative reinforcement to motivate her to do it right the next time through. Doesn't seem strange in a religion that supposedly is so family focused? (just kidding). This has been a great reminder to be sensitive to all in the congregation with the Holy Ghost as a guide. On the other hand, women tended to speak about motherhood as the most emotionally-exhausting and time-consuming chore imaginable. Our new bishop, for the last three years, gave no gift or acknowledgement. The Spirits constant companionship is one of the greatest gifts of mortality. As always, Kurt, I was happy to give you a hand with this! I do look forward to handing the kids over to my husband for the day, but Ill take a pass on sacrament meeting.
The Best Ward Mother's Day Gift - Leading Saints They cannot eat it, and in fact just having the stuff around is a serious temptation to do so. Since I believe he (the Father) and my Heavenly Mother are probably equals, Id say we know a lot about her as well! One of my talks I focused on Moses and the 5 women at the beginning of his life and the different roles they played: Shiphrah & Puah, the midwives who saved his and countless other Hebrew boys lives, Jochebed his birthmother and what it must have taken to put him in the basket and shut the lid (shes a stronger woman than I am! We got there at about 7:30 AM and one of my Aunts had already been there and left flowers for her. Do you also not need an idea such as the Savior, your Father in Heaven or your Heavenly Mother? The bad ones tend to deal withthe big generalities, praisingmotherhood without even pausing to define whether we are speaking of women who have given birth, or womanhood in general. MD is a day I prefer to play hookey, especially now that my mother is currently lost in alzheimers disease. We should not celebrate anything unless it is universally acknowledged around the world. Thank you. 2) If your outfit doesnt match, no one who matters will notice. Latter-day Saint pianist Monica Scott has arranged a touching Mother's Day medley in honor of Stephanie Pope, a mother of five who recently passed away . Im even okay when they hand out plants. Mother's Day is a special time to say thanks to the women in your life. That said, I cant say I recall ever hearing a bad Mothers Day talk. And dont even get me started on the Are We Not All Mothers tripe. Have a variety of ages speak on ideas or what they've done to help their mothers and ways they've stayed close to their mothers. You can still give the women the day off. My own father would probably appreciate a plant, but fortunately he enjoys cookies too. You can guess how well that went over.
Find another way to show appreciation to Mothers! #46 That is an awesome idea for your talk. Along with activities and programs during the week, Latter-day Saints gather on Sundays for an approximately hour-long "sacrament" meeting, where men, women and younger members offer prayers and give sermons, sing hymns and partake of the sacrament (similar to receiving communion). He suffered for the sins, sorrows, and pains of all people, providing remission of sins for those who repent and live the gospel (see 2Nephi 9:2123). Idealsno, no maam not for me. The good news is, most sisters want chocolate from their ward family and most sisters usually get chocolate. I think its terribly sad that growing up Mormon, I never heard anyone make any serious attempt to talk about Heavenly Mother on Mothers Day. Im asking this out of genuine curiosity/responsibility for handing stuff out. In my nearly 40 years in the church that has borne true. Mark, This post was positively Uchtdorfian! It seems like awareness and knowing your audience as mentioned before, is half the battle. Over 70 countries observe Mothers Day, but some of them still retain these spiritual roots whereas in the US its mostly a commercial holiday. For the past two years, I have been passed over because other women tell the youth passing out the gift, that they need to take one for so-and-so, shes ill today,without looking for women in the room that havent received one yet. What do you think should be handed out for Mothers Day? Speaking for myself, I think Fathers Day is much easier. Your email address will not be published. This is Elder Hollands second appearance on this list of LDS talks on motherhood. Yet, we have a tendency to go to extremes, particularly culturally, forgetting that we are worshiping God, and that we are not God nor expected to be God in this, our mortal state. The rest of us mortals should stick with real. So, yeah, how irritated the host is with the comments is pretty much it. Bear in mind thatmost of women in the congregation havelives that havent turned out the way they expected. Many times, it seems bishoprics want to put women on a pedestal for a day, while trying not to offend anyone. Sorry I missed that. Sacrament meetings include music, talks, testimonies and prayers. Sacrament meeting is the term for a regular Latter-day Saint worship service, usually held each week on Sunday, where the sacrament (similar to communion) is offered to the members of the Church. Why does the church HAVE to be a part of it? Im asking this out of genuine curiosity/responsibility for handing stuff out. .
I too have wrestled with the infertility monster and MD was always a nightmare. Being Both a Disciple & a Daughter: Balancing Formality in Prayer. Excellent suggestions, Mark. In order to equally celebrate Fatherhood , the males (12 years+) all get Nachos on Fathers Day (served up by the RS Presidency.). Don't subscribe
I also have plenty of friends who are single sisters and they mourn growing older and menopause because they wont be able to have the children they want to hold and love. Maybe Ill get a pizza and tell the kids to cook it for breakfast when Sunday morning comes.
The Damage of Mormon Mother's Day Myths - Zelophehad's Daughters Families are good about this but public acknowledgement is hard to come by. I dont want to hear Sister Becks controversial mothers who know talk, or president bensons talk come home talk. Crowd-sourcing request each year when I plan the Mother's Day sacrament meeting I feel an extra bit of pressure to make it special for our wives and mothers. Even though Mothers Day is now a reasonably happy day for me personally, I still find that my mind is focused on how other women in my ward might be experiencing it. iPhone. It was a powerful meeting and very real. So Im on for Mothers Day and have been assigned Julie Becks talk on the history of Relief Society as topic. I miss her something terrible, and being at the grave-site really brought all of those emotions to the surface. #37 Now that you mention it, Uchtdorf is pretty Hallmarky. (If you want to see an example, search mormon tax exemption on Twitter.) Honestly, considering how touchy this subject is (women w/out kids, abusive moms, separated/divorced men who don't want to be, moms who've passed, etc), I'd focus on Womanhood. Aleah served a mission in California and loves baking, Lang Leav poetry, Gaynor Minden pointe shoes, and Bollywood movies. I exchanged the word "guidance " for the word " mothers " in this verse to help it go with the Mother's Day theme. If So, Should We Pray Out Loud? She is buried in the same plot as my great-grandmother as well so it was nice to be able to be there with them again. This is the same reason we do not have missionary farewells any longer. There are sins that need confessing; Aim at earth and you get neither. Feel free to disagree with Lewis as well, but I feel like Im in pretty good company at this moment! President Hinckley addressed all the women of the Church and thanked them for all the work they do in their families, congregations, and communities. That bishop that moved his ward away from elaborate gifting was doing the right thing. Usually chocolate, a plant or flower. In the garden He said, My soul is exceeding sorrowful, even unto death (Matthew 26:38). I know some women get upset because they arent mothers, but it doesnt bother me. Even men who are on diets. I am actually traveling with my mother and other members of the family this weekend and showed her this in church to get a laugh. Because I know the real story so it is distracting from the fake one that they are giving. MD really is a no-win. I just pray that the spirit can convey the message that seems so exciting in my heart. Im grateful for it. May the blessings of heaven rest upon you. Examples? We changed the lines to "Mother Do You Love Me". It is a simple answer, and it is trueThe most important thing a father can do for his [daughter] is to love [her] mother.'. It was designed with ward choirs and Sacrament Meeting musical numbers in mind. Sadly, though, it probably caused a lot of pain to the listeners. It is even worse when women are so enthused with Father's Day that they want to ignore it completely - as in absolutely not mention it. I must speak the loving word, Im thankful for ideals even when I dont measure up not even often let alone all the time. No one tries to probe for subliminal meaning in the choice of Fat Boys. The men work. Use Mothers Day as an example of how a saint can use a tradition of men as an acceptable way to express Gods love and promulgate the Gospel. Make sure you understand where that line is. It was a nice meeting. They seemed to love the tradition and I never received negative feedback. Just to be clear - I meant 'written/given' by women (aka musical number "O My Father" written by Eliza R Snow, conf talk by Reeve/Oscarson/Okazaki). What does that say about us as a people? I cant remember the last time I heard a bad sacrament meeting talk, period. Our HC speaker will be talking about forgiveness this Sunday at the special request of our Leadership. This talk was named after a phrase from Victor Hugo who gave all her food to her children, not because she is not hungry, but because she is a mother. Elder Holland talks about the central role motherhood plays in the gospel of Jesus Christ and gives many principles of comfort and courage for mothers who may be struggling. And he completely meant it too. See also What to Expect at Church Services. It defines our very identity, our divine stature and nature, and the unique traits our Father gave us.. Seriously, it would be nice to have some idea. Thanks, kc! I gave a MD talk one year and focused on Emma Smith, Naomi the MIL of Ruth and my daughter who was a young mother at the time. Cannot load blog information at this time. Others must be killed or theyll live forever, injuring regular folk. He offers advice on how young women can look to faithful mother figures as a pattern to follow. from Pres. He also discussed the importance of placing motherhood first in our lives but not allowing the pressures of motherhood to sap us of joy. But from my description, it sounds like the typical platitudinous MD talk. each year when I plan the Mother's Day sacrament meeting I feel an extra bit of pressure to make it special for our wives and mothers. I have attended other Christian churches enough to realize why it is much less likely that they have painful mothers day talks. My mother was an ideal, and she is schizophrenic, couldnt cook water without burning the pan, never cleaned a thing in the house while we were children, had rebellious to some degree or another, etc. Alece, It would just be nice to complete our idealism with a good dose of reality. But I see where you are coming from. Ere the sun goes down: Its always the wives.
Father's Day Talk in Sacrament Meeting June 21, 2009 - Blogger THE major Mothers Day talk in Sacrament Meeting in our ward this week, I have forwarded all of this discussion on to him! Although the later version of Mothers Day in the US was to honor mothers, it retained its association with peace as carnations were given out as a symbol of peace (white if ones mother was dead, pink if alive). Aim at heaven and you will get earth thrown in. Actually, Ive never heard anything about Heavenly Mother beyond, Isnt it so wonderful that we believe in a Heavenly Mother?!. Beware the philosophies of Hallmark, mingled with scripture. lol. #16 They asked him to speak again?! Uchtdorf, but you have to admit he gets pretty Hallmark(y) sometimes. The first speaker was a single father, then the bishop spoke, then the stake president spoke. rockpond Ideals ALL! Available Now: 2023 Temple Calendar. Thanks for all your thoughts. Members have now learned to accept it. My kids are way too distracting. I accidently hit the quote button and so nothing is there..you guys can fill in the blank.. My wife and I will be on an Alaska Cruise. My mother died just a little less than a year ago, and I find that I never appreciated Mothers Day at all until now that my mother is gone. I am aware of a seminary/institute teacher who is apparently of the firm and unshakeable belief that a pile of pizza must be provided each week without fail. Below, youll find an excerpt from each talk and a link to the full text. It hurts. I dont need to socialize at church.
My Sacrament Meeting Prayer - Rational Faiths | Mormon Blog From all accounts, her talk was very well received. I'd had a challenging morning, but somehow, my 3-year-old-daughter was decked out and ready for church on time. The worst talk I ever heard came from a woman who described how her mother used to sit by her during piano lessons. To the light the lost ones leading, Thanks. The only Mothers Day event for another church Im aware of is when a friend told me that in her church the main talk is always about Christ no matter what holiday it is, but when its just the women the speaker will focus on motherhood and Christs teaching about mothers. What would happen, if, at the start of sacrament meeting on Mothers Day, the bishop announced that there would be two separate meetings. I think its the best way to go. The first consideration is that you, the speaker, need to begin with your audience in mind. The speakers were: 70-year-old married sister w/ no children; mid-30s sister who works full-time, dh is the stay-at-home parent, and theyve adopted 2 children through the foster care system; and a single sister. I had some ideas but didn't want to repeat anything that had already been done from the Primary. I also choose to focus on the women in the scriptures like #30 has mentioned. Gospel Q&A: Do We Really Have the Spirit With Us All the Time? Variations included a verse for when mommy comes home stoned, with descriptions of bratty violent Mormon children and a terrible version only whispered with stifled giggles including titillating, lolita overtones. It spoke to the special importance of mothers to their children, but also made clear that as with other mistakes, the effects of mothers failings can absolutely be healed by the Atonement. I think she says that just because she is my mom.
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